Taming the Unruly Mind

Cassandra Tondro, "Tribal Beat," abstract art

Hello Friends,

I had an interesting experience this week that I thought I’d share with you. Maybe you’ll find it helpful in some way.

I was having a rough day and feeling down on myself, when I suddenly heard a voice telling me that I don’t have to listen to what my mind is saying. This voice said that the stories in my mind are lies, and not the truth about who I am.

This was not new information, but it’s one thing to understand it intellectually and another to practice it when you’re in the middle of emotional upheaval.

The interesting thing is once I heard the voice and understood what was being said, the emotions stopped instantly. How weird is that? And where did that voice come from, anyway?

On further reflection, I realized that my mind is not my friend. I don’t know why my mind wants to take me down, but the stories that it’s spinning about me are not helpful.

Chances are that your mind is also running a number on you by telling you stories about yourself that aren’t true. Take a look at the background chatter in your head. What is your mind saying about you, and is it correct?

These stories are not the truth of who we are. Often they’re skewed to the negative, but they can also go the other way resulting in an over-inflated ego. We can learn to tame our minds and change the stories that the mind feeds us.

The first step is awareness. Look at what your mind is saying about you, and begin to see it for what it is — not exactly an accurate view of reality.

Mindfulness, meditation, yoga, and other relaxation techniques help you to see that there is a part of you that is separate from your mind. Your mind is not the ultimate authority on you. Your higher self is the one that’s really in control, and by tapping in to that, you can circumvent your mind.

Gather information. Two books that I read recently really speak to me: Pema Chodron’s When Things Fall Apart and Eckhart Tolle’s A New Earth. There are lots of other good books on this subject, as well as information available on the Internet.

What stories does your mind spin about you, and how do you handle it? I’d love to hear your thoughts. Please share them with us in the comments section below.

With love and appreciation,

Painting at top: “Tribal Beat,” 30″ x 48″, repurposed acrylic latex paint on canvas

Cassandra Tondro, "Tribal Beat," contemporary art



  1. I know what you mean, my thoughts and feelings sometimes jump from happy to sad to dark to questioning everything I do to hopeful, all in a matter of minutes. I take classes in Medicine Dance, where you let your moody express itself and slowly let the mind get out of the way and just observe and stay aware of all that unfolds. During these sessions, where I don’t attach to any feelings or thoughts, I realize they are all energy that just need to pass through. My movements help that happen, because I am focusing on my modules moving no matter what. My body holds so many feelings and stories that are stuck within it, that movement and sounds help release them?
    Just thought i’d Share that experience too.


    1. Thanks for sharing that, Alice,and I think you’re right about thoughts and emotions being energy that just needs to pass through. It’s so hard to not get caught up in it and feel like it’s real, though!

      I also like what you said about our bodies holding stories and emotions. I’ve heard that even our cells hold these feelings. Great suggestion about using movement to release them!

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