Who’s Listening?

Cassandra Tondro, "Baubles," abstract art

Hello Dear Friends,

I had a profound dream last night. For many years I saw a therapist who changed my life. Every week she would listen to whatever was going on with me, and she was genuinely interested in what I had to say.

Even though I haven’t seen her in twenty-five years, there she was in my dream, once again hanging on my every word and listening with rapt attention. I felt so much love and adoration coming from her that it made me weep.

I realized what a precious gift she had given to me — the gift of listening. She gave me the confidence to speak my mind without fear of judgment and to become my authentic self.

Listening is one of the greatest gifts we can give to each other. Everyone wants to be heard and understood.

You don’t have to say a word — just let the other person talk and try to see things from their point of view. No judgment, no advice, no running commentary. Just close your mouth, open your mind and listen. Show interest by asking a question or two.

By taking the time to listen to each other, we can change the world. Listening generates empathy, and when we understand the feelings of others, we’re less likely to react with anger, aggression or violence.

When have you felt heard and deeply understood? I’d love to hear your thoughts. Please share them with us in the comments section below.

With love and appreciation,

Painting at top: “Dreamtime,” diptych 24 x 48 inches, repurposed acrylic latex paint on canvas



  1. That is the first thing I noticed about you,the Listening,the Non judgement and that made me like you.
    I am still working on that for myself.

  2. Love this article and so true! So important to listen and be in the moment, clear your thoughts and take in what is being shared.

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